Why is it that when people have problems with others, they never go speak to them directly about what's bugging them? Why is it that no one actually sits down and says, "Hey there, I need to tell you, I don't understand why you do this or act this way. This is the impression I get but I might be misinterpreting. Please explain."
In the afternoons, my mother generally gets a call from both of my sisters, relating how their days went as they come home from school. She talks to them for about an hour, then comes to me to complain about what they have discussed. One wants to move to St. Louis, then mom comes into my room to talk about why that is a horrible idea (not really horrible, she just doesn't like how far away it is). Another keeps changing her mind everyday about what she wants to be her major, where she wants to go to school, if she wants to go to school, where she wants to live, what she wants to be. Then mom comes to talk to me about how frustrating it is to hear this news and expects me to give the solution. I don't have the answer for everything (although, I must say, I do give excellent advice, no one ever listens though. I'm like the Greek soothsayer Cassandra who's visions always came true, but no one ever listened to)!
What she needs to do is calmly and rationally sit with them (probably not the first sister, but definitely with the second) and just talk. To the first, just say how sad they'd be if they moved that far away, but happy that they are finally moving to a better place. To the second, tell them how stupid it would be if they gave up now. Freshman year of college is tough, it's supposed to be for most people, but that's not an excuse to just give up. You don't need to make an A in every class, especially the gen ed classes, cuz once you get past those, you are in the classes you choose to be in, because that's what you want to study. You'll pay attention more, and learn better because you genuinely want to be there, and aren't forced to be there like in gen ed courses. Changing schools isn't going to make anything better because that will more than likely force you to take more classes because transfers won't go through, which will mean more years at school, which will mean more money to pay for the extra years. Stop trying to change things now and just wait it out. And stop making extreme decisions on the fly just because tiny things are going right. Sheesh.
Job front: up for another position that I'd be great for. I was hoping to hear something by today, dear reader, but alas, nothing. My grandmother called out of the blue, and I thought it was them, and got excited then let down. Oh well, hopefully I'll hear something soon. If this doesn't work, I think I've decided I'll start making things. Not sure what, but I'm crafty. I can knit, I'll learn to sew, or I can bake. Something will come along. Who knows, maybe my book will get published and I'll be a millionaire. Man, I sound perkier than usual. What a nice change!
Love,
Princess Booka
In the afternoons, my mother generally gets a call from both of my sisters, relating how their days went as they come home from school. She talks to them for about an hour, then comes to me to complain about what they have discussed. One wants to move to St. Louis, then mom comes into my room to talk about why that is a horrible idea (not really horrible, she just doesn't like how far away it is). Another keeps changing her mind everyday about what she wants to be her major, where she wants to go to school, if she wants to go to school, where she wants to live, what she wants to be. Then mom comes to talk to me about how frustrating it is to hear this news and expects me to give the solution. I don't have the answer for everything (although, I must say, I do give excellent advice, no one ever listens though. I'm like the Greek soothsayer Cassandra who's visions always came true, but no one ever listened to)!
What she needs to do is calmly and rationally sit with them (probably not the first sister, but definitely with the second) and just talk. To the first, just say how sad they'd be if they moved that far away, but happy that they are finally moving to a better place. To the second, tell them how stupid it would be if they gave up now. Freshman year of college is tough, it's supposed to be for most people, but that's not an excuse to just give up. You don't need to make an A in every class, especially the gen ed classes, cuz once you get past those, you are in the classes you choose to be in, because that's what you want to study. You'll pay attention more, and learn better because you genuinely want to be there, and aren't forced to be there like in gen ed courses. Changing schools isn't going to make anything better because that will more than likely force you to take more classes because transfers won't go through, which will mean more years at school, which will mean more money to pay for the extra years. Stop trying to change things now and just wait it out. And stop making extreme decisions on the fly just because tiny things are going right. Sheesh.
Job front: up for another position that I'd be great for. I was hoping to hear something by today, dear reader, but alas, nothing. My grandmother called out of the blue, and I thought it was them, and got excited then let down. Oh well, hopefully I'll hear something soon. If this doesn't work, I think I've decided I'll start making things. Not sure what, but I'm crafty. I can knit, I'll learn to sew, or I can bake. Something will come along. Who knows, maybe my book will get published and I'll be a millionaire. Man, I sound perkier than usual. What a nice change!
Love,
Princess Booka
